John Soforic

There is only one success — to be able to spend your life in your own way.  ––Christopher Morley

When we operate in an environment that is most fitted to our unique individuality, we feel intrinsically rewarded. When we feel like a square peg in a round hole, we are unmotivated and tired all day.

Suitable work is more sustainable. It is where we belong.  It is where we can thrive. Seek the work that provides a sense of fulfillment.

“Be true to one’s self, follow not every impulse, but find out who one is,” advised Earl Nightingale. “Discover a combination of interests and powers, and find through experiment and thought the course of life to fulfill those interests and powers most completely.”

If after many years you find work to be a dull chore, it is your duty to find new work. It is your obligation to slay your excuses.

You will not win in work unsuited to your true self. Ask yourself if you want to be the best in your field? Do you want to master it?

If you don’t want to be the best in your field, you’re in the wrong field. Change your environment. Move yourself. You’re not a tree!

W. Clement Stone said, “When you discover your mission, you will feel its demand. It will fill you with enthusiasm and a burning desire to get to work on it.” Suitable work is a requirement for winning big!

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It is in suffering that the real battle of success is won or lost. ––the Wealthy Gardener

“Suffering, failure, loneliness, sorrow, discouragement, and death will be part of your journey,” Brennan Manning reminds us.

Life can be hard––it will be extremely hard at times––and these hardships can either destroy our hopes or grow our character.

It all depends on how we respond to suffering. We can drink and gain a temporary reprieve from it. We can watch television, or distract ourselves in a million other ways. We can keep moving like the ants.

Or we can sit in suffering. We can seek the lesson that our internal struggle is trying to teach us. We can confront our troubled souls.

“Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit,” claimed Napoleon Hill.

We gain these benefits when we spend time in solitude.

We grow through suffering, but only if we sit in it. The lesson of suffering goes unheeded by the masses who keep moving like ants.

“Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet,” said Helen Keller. “Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved.”

Tough times never last, but tough people do.

It is in suffering that the real battle of success is won or lost.

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“Once the ‘what’ is decided, the ‘how’ always follows.” ––Pearl S. Buck

Our dreams need our faith before we know the way. We must not make the ‘how’ an excuse for not facing and accepting the ‘what.’”

What is your grandest dream? What’s the aspiration you privately long for? What would you do if you knew you could not fail?

Chances are it’s unrealistic, and that only means you don’t yet know how to get it. Big dreams need people who walk in faith.

Martin Luther King, Jr. said, “Take the first step in faith. You don’t have to see the whole staircase, just take the first step.”

If we ever want an extraordinary life, we must at times be willing to commit ourselves without knowing how things will turn out.

“One thing is sure,” said Franklin D. Roosevelt. “We have to do something. We have to do the best we know how at the moment . . . ; If it doesn’t turn out right, we can modify it as we go along.”

Once the what is decided, the how always follows. We figure out the how only after we commit to the what.

You must start with the dream, maintain it in the mind, dwell on it, and let the how catch up to it. And never, ever, HOW it down!

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We suffer the pain of discipline or the pain of regret. ––Jim Rohn

“The one quality which sets one man apart from another—the key which lifts one to every aspiration while others are caught up in the mire of mediocrity—is not talent, formal education, nor intellectual brightness,” said Theodore Roosevelt. “It is self-discipline. With self-discipline, all things are possible. Without it, even the simplest goal can seem like the most impossible dream.”

We must choose the hard life to earn our comforts. Dreams will require swallowing our pride, choosing wisely, resisting impulses, and maintaining a steadfast focus. Discipline assures our direction.

“A professional is someone who can do his best work even when he doesn’t feel like it,” said Alistair Cooke.

Maxwell Maltz said, “The ability to delay gratification in the short term in order to enjoy greater rewards in the long term is the indispensable prerequisite for success.”

Discipline is choosing between what we want now and what we want most. It is doing what needs to be done, when it needs to be done, and when we don’t want to do it.

Without self-discipline even the simplest goal can seem like the most impossible dream.

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What you allow is what will continue. ––the Wealthy Gardener

In a culture of cause and effect, sowing and reaping, and daily productivity, we can sometimes forget to allow good things to happen.

The lesson of allowing was a constant one when my son was playing basketball. Allow the game to come to you. Allow the three-point shot to go in––don’t try so hard, think less, just allow it.

It’s a delicate art in life to focus on what we intend, pay attention to the mechanics, do our part to bring it about . . . then allow.

When we care too much, we muck up the mind. When we think too much, we get in our way. When we try too hard, we tighten up.

We need to be attached to the doing but detached to the outcome.

We must consciously take our foot off the brake and move into a dimension of allowing good things to happen. Success is the natural order of things when we attain a higher spiritual consciousness.

“You have to take risks,” said Paulo Coelho. “We will only understand the miracle of life fully when we allow the unexpected to happen.”

Richard Bartlett said, “If you allow yourself to expect guidance, guidance will show up.”

“Have an open mind allow different ideas into your way of thinking,” said Peter Diamandis. Do your best, and leave the rest.

Allow more abundance in your life.

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To live an extraordinary life, you must resist an ordinary approach. -Frank McKinney

Life isn’t fair. It’s harder these days to get ahead due to stagnant wages and rising inflation. You work just to pay the bills.

In the past a family could survive on one household income. Those days are long gone; the current generation has it harder than ever.

If you’re average and ordinary, you’re in trouble.

The times are different, for sure, but so too are attitudes.

Work ethic is an old-fashioned idea that routinely gets criticized––along with sacrifice, discipline, and frugality. Compared to past generations, there is less focus on earning, saving, and buying with cash.

These days people who work overtime or weekends are called workaholics. These days life is about balance. These days people live in outsized homes that were bought to satisfy outsized desires.

Maybe these days we need to be different than average. “The hardest struggle of all is to be something different from what the average man is,” said Charles Schwab.

Times may be different. But with more old-fashioned work ethic, sacrifice, discipline, and frugality. . . life is a game we can still win.

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